Ahab and Jezebel: Marital Incitement—Start a Love Riot in Your Marriage
1 Kings 21:25 Surely there was no one like Ahab who sold himself to do evil in the sight of the Lord, because Jezebel his wife incited him (emphasis added).
The biblical couple of Ahab and Jezebel are one of the most notorious husbands and wives in the Bible. They are synonymous with evil; they will never show up on a list of “role models” for building a solid marriage. After all, he was the wicked King of Israel and she, to this day, is the icon of a treacherous or scheming woman. Yet the lessons to be learned from the marriage of this “dynamic duo”, like everything in the Bible, are extremely valuable to us today.
In 1 Kings 21:25, Ahab “sold himself to do evil” as a direct result of what his wife incited in him. Specifically, he followed idols and lost sight of his relationship with God because of what Jezebel encouraged him to do. By definition, what Jezebel did by inciting Ahab was to stir up or to cause a riot inside of Ahab.3 Jezebel’s actions stirred up and encouraged her husband to take actions inconsistent with his relationship with God, and then to take his eyes off God.
While I am pretty sure, or at least I’m hopeful, that I don’t stir up any evil riots in my wife (LOL), it does serve as a reminder of just how husbands and wives become connected to and influence each other. To a large degree, it is inevitable with the closeness of marriage that husbands and wives influence or incite each other. But if wickedness can incite our spouse’s heart against God, then could not the opposite also be true—that our actions can encourage or incite our spouse to become closer to God?
While each person is ultimately responsible for his or her own actions before God, how we incite our spouse is definitely worth pondering. Instead of inciting the negative, I want to incite a love riot through commitment and encouragement that stimulates intellectual, physical, emotional, and spiritual insight to the heart of God.
This week, go out of your way to incite a “love riot” in your spouse toward God. Speak words of encouragement, love, patience, and positivity—all in love. Demonstrate godly love toward your partner—consistently and regardless of his or her attitude or actions. Above all, be creative, have some fun, and start a riot. Smile!
Meditations for the Week:
- What do you incite in your spouse? Is it positive or negative?
- Are you happy with the parts of you that rub off on your spouse?
- What do you allow your spouse to incite in you?
- Do you allow that “thing” he or she does that gets on your nerves to move you to “sell yourself to evil”?
Prayer for Our Marriage:
It is the ninth week of the new year and today I want share an excerpt from the Husbands, Wives, God Weekly Devotions. Many churches, groups & couples are utilizing this devotional to increase communication and “contact” with God’s Word in their marriage. Be Blessed.