The Family That Serves…

The Family That Serves…

multi generational familyThe family that serves together stays together

If you were to check in with each member of your family, in this moment, what are they all doing? In a typical evening, do you all spend time in the same home? The same room? The same activities? Do you have common interests, or does everyone do his or her own “thing?”

It can be so easy to get in a routine of everyone being in different rooms, barely noticing one another as paths cross throughout the time the whole family is home. For some families, the amount of time the whole family is home may be nearly non-existent.

What can you do about it?

1. Pray together. Commit to a time that is set aside each day for prayer and a devotional. It doesn’t have to be long, but it does need to be God-focused. It helps set the tone for the rest of the time you have together.

2. Serve together. Our society is becoming more and more self-centered, and selfishness is the opposite of love. Selfishness unchecked is very dangerous, as it leads to destructive behaviors (think Sodom and Gomorrah!). Shifting the focus of your family to others rather than self is one of the best things you could do to help your family mature spiritually.

Use some creativity and find some new ways of reaching out to others! What topics really catch your family’s interest? What are your collective passions? How can they be used to serve others?

Just to get the creative juices flowing, let’s start with some ideas:

  • Join or start a ministry project at your church
  • Collect items needed in a mission field (check with church leaders for contact information)
  • Visit nursing homes
  • Write letters to soldiers
  • Write letters to shut-ins
  • Offer to help shut-ins with cleaning/basic household tasks
  • Find a local nonprofit and ask how your family can help (if you don’t find one, check out The Carys Rainn Foundation, Inc.!)
  • Collect soup labels to benefit a good cause (
  • Do a search for mission projects (a quick search found this link with ideas:
  • Have a family brainstorming session to come up with your own list.

What ideas did your family develop?


Keri Kitchen is a devoted wife and mother, blogger, author of Love Isn’t Selfish, licensed mental health counselor, and founder of The Carys Rainn Foundation. To read more about what God is doing in her life, visit her blog at


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