Judges 14:15 Then it came about on the fourth day that they said to Samson’s wife, “Entice your husband so that he will tell us the riddle, or we will burn you and your father’s house with fire. Have you invited us to impoverish us? Is this not so?”
The crazy thing about marriage is that there are times when she really just “gets me.” We talk, she listens, we laugh, we connect, and all is good. Yet there are times when we really are from different planets. Nothing clicks, false assumptions abound, and miscommunication is the only communication. It is in these marriage flip-flops that couples can ask, “Why did we ever get married?” Have you ever felt that way?
The marriage of Samson and his wife from Timnah is one in which you can sense the same question arising. For Samson’s part, you can hear him asking, “Why did I marry this woman from a background so different from mine? We have nothing in common. Why did I get married?” For her part, you can hear her asking, “Why did I marry this man. He’s just not that into me.”
From both sides, theirs was a marriage built on external connections and convenience. He married her because “she looks good to me” (Judges 14:3). She married him out of a sense of pressure from the Philistines, to marry their enemy and expose his weaknesses.
Both Samson and his Philistine wife entered their marriage for the wrong reasons. Yet out of these two “wrong” motives for marriage, God used their marriage to heighten the tensions between Israel and their enemies, the Philistines (cf. Judges 14:4). Even though their perspectives were limited to their own purposes, God used their marriage to effect His greater purpose.
There are times in marriage when a couple may wonder, “Why did I marry him/her?” In such challenging moments, remember that the difficulties of your marriage were seen by God, even when He joined you together. Both the high mountains and low valleys of your relationship are working to effect God’s deeper purposes through your marriage.
Meditations for the Week:
- How might God use what is both good and bad in our marriage to effect a greater purpose of which we are presently unaware?
- How can we ensure our perspectives are godly?
- Read and discuss each verse in the following passage: Proverbs 16:1–4. (Hint: “Commit” in v. 3 means “to roll to,” which is like rolling a boulder uphill while God pulls the boulder from the other side.)
- What therefore God hath joined together, let no man tear apart (Matthew 19:6). What does this mean to each of you?
Prayer for Our Marriage:
Lord, guide us, and use the tough stuff of this marriage to bring greater glory to you.