When you look around you, do you see those people who seem to just have it all together…. ALL the time?
It’s the couple who is always on time, looking completely neat, calm, cool, and collected. You know the ones. They have the beautiful home where everything always seems to be pristine and organized; the new cars that always look sparkling clean. You never hear them arguing. Their kids never act up in public.
I bet you don’t know them well, do you? Do you want to know how I know? If you knew them well, you’d know better. You’d start to see the areas of weakness. You’d realize that, even while things may SEEM perfect to the general public, there’s more to the story.
If you knew them better, you’d see their stressors. Maybe they got in over their heads with that car and the big house. Maybe they have medical bills that keep piling up or they worry about how they’re going to continue paying for nursing home services for a dear loved one.
While you are in earshot, they may refrain from those frustrated little reminders to each other about the bad habits they each have that drive the other nuts. You may not see the meltdowns when the kids get tired or everyone is having an off day.
Off days happen. To everyone.
Nobody is perfect. There was only one man who met the description, and He was hung on a cross, then ascended to Heaven. None of the rest of us are perfect.
You don’t need to expect perfection from yourself, your spouse, or your children.
- Just keep moving forward to work at being the best you can be.
- Keep praying for wisdom and guidance as you make important decisions.
- Pray that God helps you look at others through His eyes – a little compassion goes a very long way in strengthening patience.
- Focus on what is good and praiseworthy.
- Turn your eyes toward God’s perfect love and away from human performances. I once heard it well-put when someone pointed out that we often try to compare all of our flaws to everyone else’s highlight reels. Be real about it. When satan tries to whisper those lies to your heart, remind him of God’s truth.
Nobody is perfect. All you’re expected to do is put forth your best effort and trust God to make up for what you lack.
Keri Kitchen is a devoted wife and mother, blogger, author of Love Isn’t Selfish, licensed mental health counselor, and founder of The Carys Rainn Foundation. To read more about what God is doing in her life, visit her blog at www.aftertherainn.com