Earlier in the week I posted, Is Jesus Invited to Your Wedding?. In that post we looked at John 2, about the couple in Cana of Galilee that invited Jesus to their wedding. It was there at their wedding that Jesus performed His first miracle – turning water into wine.
A couple that makes Jesus the focus on their wedding day, does so because they recognize the need to have Jesus as the center of their home and relationship – after the wedding. So for those that are married, have you invited Jesus into your marriage?
One of the first questions I like to ask couples is, “How is your relationship with Christ?”. It is a question that gets a wide range of responses, with the most frequent being something related to church attendance. But having a relationship with Christ goes well beyond just attending church on Sunday. It is in how husbands and wives interact with Jesus the other six days of the week, that either drives strength into or out of their relationship. Lets look at a few couples that interacted with Christ in their marriage:
- Luke 8:40-42 & 49-55 Jairus a synagogue official’s only daughter had died. He fell at that feet of Jesus and begged him to come to his house. Jesus then gathered a few faithful disciples along with Jairus and his wife into their daughter’s bedroom. There, they watched as Jesus raised their daughter from the dead.
Moments of despair come to every mother and father. Having a relationship with Christ means having a source of strength and wisdom to call on in the tough moments of parenting.
- Mark 9:14-29 Another father brings his sick son to Jesus. As the father asked if Jesus could help, He responded this way, “If you can? All things are possible to him who believes”. That father responded with a statement that I think many of us can relate to, “I do believe; help my unbelief.”. And Jesus healed the son.
A relationship with Christ does not mean that all of our fears go away nor does it mean that we always know how things are going to turn out. However, as we exercise faith to know that He is the answer, even in our weakness, He does what we think is impossible.
- John 8:1-12 A woman is caught in the act of adultery. By law and by judgement of “people” around her, she should have been stoned. However, when Jesus came into her life she received His compassion, which is much greater than ours. Instead of stoning her for her shortcomings in her relationships, he embraced her flaws.
With Christ in our lives, we are more than what we see in the mirror, more than the secret things we know about ourselves and much more than what others say about us. Jesus knows and loves you more than you could ever love yourself.
- Luke 8:3 Chuza and Joanna were a couple of influence in their day. He was the steward of King Herod’s finances, kind of like the Federal Reserve Chariman of his day. Joanna was among a group of women that Jesus had healed. Even though Chuza’s wealth came from Herod – a persecutor of Christians – he and his wife were moved to give their money to help spread the gospel of Jesus.
Walking with Christ is a growth process. The more that you see him work in your lives, the more you want to know and serve him.
What each of these relationships have in common is that “life” brought them to recognize the need to enter into a relationship with Christ. It is not a magic bullet, an ATM, nor a hocus pocus magic formula. What it is, is the strength of God Himself directing your marriage in and through challenges.
Do You Want God’s Help in Your Marriage?
In Judges 13, a man named Manoah and his wife are unable to have children. The angel of the Lord (A sighting of Jesus in the Old Testament) shows up and tells the woman she will have a child and how to raise the child. She then tells her husband, he asks God to teach them what to do.
I share the marriage of Manoah and his wife often because to me it is something we can really relate to. When the unexpected happens and we are overwhelmed, wouldn’t it be good to be able to call on Jesus and say, “Teach us what to do!”? Do you want that kind of help in your marriage? Is it time as husband and wife to enter into a deeper relationship with Christ. Have you and your spouse made Jesus the head of your home? When you speak to each other do you speak with godly love or…not so much?
Try this: This week read Psalms 23 together. What does it make you both think about? Share those thoughts, begin to talk about God together and watch how he begins to bless your marriage.