Everyday marriages fall by wayside for one simple reason: They allow things that don’t matter to take precedence over what does matter. If you think about the reasons that marriages fail perhaps even the reason that your marriage is in a fight right now, and the common thread is that what I call “external pressures” are attacking the marriage and winning. Whether it is a thought, a relationship, a friendship, a set of expectations, career ambitions, etc…something from the outside is blowing apart the inside of the marriage. And that “inside” of a Christian marriage is Christ. In other words the problem is that external pressures or weights are obscuring the husband or wife’s view of Christ.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-3
The advantage of a Christian marriage is the great cloud of witnesses that if can’t be found anywhere else, are found in God’s Word. By my account there are over 60 marriages in the Bible and more than a few of them have already experienced the same things that marriages today face. So then, lay aside those weights on your marriage and look to Jesus…
As you absorb the context of the rest of that passage into the thoughts about your marriage, here is a question to ponder. What weights can you personally let go of to see your marriage grow?