Over the years I have written several posts on the marriage of Job and his wife. They were one of the couples that I wrote a chapter about in my first, Husbands, Wives, God book. In fact, if you have never heard the story, that I have told no less than 2 million times, the marriage of Job and his wife is what led me to develop a curriculum for engaged couples based on the marriages of the Bible, that led to the books and this blog. So I really like Job and “Mrs. Job”.
So here are the things that we know about Job:
- He was blameless & upright.
- Feared God & turned away from evil.
- He was the father of 10 children.
- He was rich and noble. The greatest man of the east.
- He routinely prayed for his kids.
All marks of a good, well respected man and father. But here is a question, why is there no mention of Job praying for his wife? I really can’t say if he did or didn’t – since I wasn’t there. But, we can conclusively say that there is no mention of him praying for her. He prayed for the kids, even offered up sacrifices for them – just in case, but not his wife. What do we make of that?
Job 1:1-5 There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job; and that man was blameless, upright, fearing God and turning away from evil. 2 Seven sons and three daughters were born to him. 3 His possessions also were 7,000 sheep, 3,000 camels, 500 yoke of oxen, 500 female donkeys, and very many servants; and that man was the greatest of all the men of the east. 4 His sons used to go and hold a feast in the house of each one on his day, and they would send and invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. 5 When the days of feasting had completed their cycle, Job would send and consecrate them, rising up early in the morning and offering burnt offerings according to the number of them all; for Job said, “Perhaps my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” Thus Job did continually.
Not sure if I know why there is no mention of his wife among his prayer concerns, maybe it is cultural. But, in the next chapter, when hard times come and things break down between Job and his wife he puts his trust in God and his wife can not get past her emotions. I can only wonder if things would have been different if Job would have spent some time praying for his wife, too.
Regardless of how well we are doing in life and our careers, there has to be just as much focus spent on praying for and building each other up – spiritually. It is where we find strength and direction when things fall apart.
So EYM family, do you pray for your spouse? How has it blessed your marriage?
Other posts about Job and Mrs. Job.