To continue some thoughts from my previous article, there are many attitudes in our society that have led us to often disregard marriage as God intended. The failings of human love often make it more difficult to show others God’s love, and marriages are often overcome with power struggles and a lack of trust. This can be horribly destructive to a marriage.
To have a godly marriage requires a commitment by both individuals, and that is often a challenge. I’d like to share my thoughts a few of the many benefits of such a marriage, as encouraged in Ephesians 5:22-33.
1. Trusting him to make wise decisions can strengthen your relationship quickly.
Support him by praying for wisdom and guidance for him. Trust will always build relationships, and there is certainly value in knowing that someone you care about trusts you!
2. Respecting him can encourage him, give him confidence at home and elsewhere, and sets an excellent example if you have children.
Show him respect by being quick to point out his strengths to others and slow to point out his flaws (and refrain from badmouthing him via social media, etc.!).
3. Supporting him in decision-making reduces stress and tension, and encourages a peaceful, happy home.
Work together to weigh out the pros and cons of big decisions.
1. Your wife was intended to be your helpmate. If you are not allowing her to help by respecting her input, you could be missing out.
2. Women may not be as complicated as we seem. We want to feel loved and appreciated. Treat us lovingly and show us that you appreciate us and there will likely be much more peace in your home!
3. Let’s face it, when there is less stress and your wife feels loved and appreciated, you’re more likely to reap the benefits. Sex is more emotionally-charged for most women than for most men.
Husbands and Wives:
- Your marriage can be a model of God’s love to others.
You may be the only Bible some people read. If others see God’s love in your marriage, they will naturally be curious! It seems to be becoming more and more rare to see selfless devotion. Be the exception!
Scripture clearly uses the image of a marital relationship to represent the relationship between Christ and the church. When you love your spouse with the same commitment, intimacy, and passion, beautiful things can happen.
Keri Kitchen is a devoted wife and mother, blogger, author of Love Isn’t Selfish, licensed mental health counselor, and founder of The Carys Rainn Foundation. To read more about what God is doing in her life, visit her blog at www.aftertherainn.com