I routinely get hammered for telling couples that Christ makes a difference in marriage. They point to the divorce rate among Christians. They challenge me with reminders of how Christian marriages have problems too…
For the word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. I Corinthians 1:18
1. The Mind of Christ. You being in Christ and then Christ being in your marriage, enables you to enjoy having the mind of Christ. That means that Christ followers think differently, see things spiritually and endure for the sake of Christ. Having the mind of Christ empowers believers to endure the winds that blow through every marriage. I Cor 2:16
2. Power to Love Differently. The famous Love Chapter of I Cor 13:4-8 tells us that love is patient, kind, doesn’t account for wrongs it has suffered and is strong enough to bear, endure and hope for all things. Let’s be honest that love is strange. It is not a love that can be conjured up or manifested apart from Christ. It is our relationship with Christ that teaches us to model His love.
3. Power to Forgive. Getting to a place where we stop giving our spouse the feelings we have about what they did or didn’t do is not easy. I mean, who wants to get close and snuggle up with the person that has betrayed our trust the deepest? Yet, we find the ability to exchange our true feelings of hurt and bitterness for a heart of love through our relationship with Christ. Jesus’ love and sacrifice for us on the cross reminds us that we forgive because He forgave us when we were unforgivable. Col 1:13-14
4. He is a Savior. We need Christ in our marriage because He is the only One that was able to release us from the burden of sin. Whatever a marriage faces, pales in comparison to – and is a result of sin in some way. So however much the weight in your marriage – Jesus can bear it.
For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly…But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us…And not only this, but we also exult in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation. (Ro. 5:6-11)
5. He can perform miracles. One of my new favorite points of reflection for newlywed couples comes from the first miracle of Jesus in John 2. He turned the ordinary – water, into the best wine they ever tasted. That all by itself is pretty powerful. But don’t forget that the occasion was a wedding. Even more to the point, it was a wedding that He was invited to…Jesus can do the miraculous, turn the mundane into the special but please, invite Him into your marriage.
How about you, why do you need Christ in your marriage?